I've tried manny difrent ways to get mods working can anyone gime a solid way to activate mods and a mod that worked for you to try plz its kind of frustrating thanks.

Mods work just fine, provided you remember two things:
1. They must be compatible with your version of the game. That's up to the mod author.
2. They must not conflict with other mods, especially if they alter scripts. There is a script merger program that attempts to alleviate this issue, but it is not perfect.

Go to the Nexus and install the Nexus Mod Manager. That's the best way to install mods. REMEMBER: Check the compatibility of any mods BEFORE you install them.