I got to hold my son for the first time yesterday. This was a child I originally didn't want, but as his birth was getting closer I started looking forward to becoming a parent. Life's a bitch. I got to hold my son for the first time yesterday, and it was also the last. Alexander, stillborn August 27th, 8:23 PM. I don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now. Please don't tell me everything will be alright, and keep your sympathies. Just tell me, what's the worst way life has ever fucked you over?

I can't compete with that. I'm offering my condolences anyway though. That's a terrible thing.

Worst time for me was likely with my now ex, we were trying for a child and went through 5 miscarriages

Losing my mother when she was 33 and I was 9. I won't sympathise but just look after yourself.

edit: I lost my father when I was 3 and he was 37 but was fortunate enough to have a step father who I bought me up as if I was his own.

I lost my father (43) when I was 9 too.

That is probably the worst thing anyone can go through.

No day I have ever had can compare to that.

My dad told me he would give me his old Cadillac once he got a new one in a few years. I was the envy of my older brother (who drove a shitty Nissan), and every kid in my high school. A few months later, my dad got in a massive wreck going down the highway. He and my mom were alright, but that car was an absolute wreck. I got an pretty decent Kia instead, but I still loved that Cadillac.

Although you said you don't need them, you still have my condolences. Losing a car is nothing compared to the loss of a child.

I think my whole life has been fucked over for the last 15 years,also the part in which i would have wanted a kid at this moment in my life, hurts. And being in love with the women of your dreams feeling it in every fibre of your body (and vice versa) with her being married, and you cant even see eachother for long times because of reasons.
And i lost my sister a few years ago, her daughter now lives with my parents. Just as we were trying to get closer.
Although i can't see any irony in it all. And yes it can still get better,but it is hard to keep faith after so long.

I feel for you, though you want no sympathies, so all i can say is have a beer on me or something like that.

My first wife.

I was really looking forward to my first son & she went & had an abortion.
The nail in the coffin of my marriage.

I don't know if this was your intention, but somehow your story made me laugh. Sorry about your car, and thank you. A few shots of vodka would be nice right now.

Nothing can compare to this. Nothing. My little sis went thorugh a misscarriage and it affected the whole family. And it will stay with you, but one day you will not feel the immediate pain anymore, thats the one thing I can say.

I myself went through a massive depression - I completely lost 5 years of my life which I can barely remember, because I spend this time effectively in a dark blur. And I lost some more years of effective lifetime in the aftermath, trying to sweep together what was left of my life and my dreams. I am still not the person I once was and I never will be again, but now I am actually on my way to get my life back. And being able to say "Yes, I was a mess, but I got the balls to face reality and deal with this shit!" (I am becoming a nurse now and everyone in my class is pretty much 20 years younger) feels good and makes me stronger.

Then vodka it is. *gets two bottles and 1 glass*.

My birth was a rough one and my father will never forget the agony of that night. Eventually the doctor came out to the waiting room and told him, "I'm very sorry Sir, we did all we could but he pulled through anyway."

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Sh*t, that sounds horrible. How did you (both) have any energy left after the second or perhaps the third?

As for the OP, I've a question: do you regret your choice that led you to this situation? I mean, it seems from your post that you won't raise your child which I find appalling. At the same time becoming a parent when you don't want to be is not doing a child any favours or yourself for that matter.